Allow your children to be SUCCESSFUL.

Your children.......They come through you but not from you.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,f
or their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.
K. Gibran

GIVE SUCCESS TO YOUR CHILDREN

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D., (1924-2005)
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

YOU CAN !

YOU CAN !

Dear Friends.It is really very blissful to meet you in the month of August to share some of the secrets of achieving Great achievements in life. Success is very easy for any one.Friends as Denis Waitley rightly mentioned

If you think you can, you can,

You have the potential to achieve anything and everything. But the precondition for our sure success is our Dare to Win Attitude.Hence start to develop the mental model of "I CAN ! and I WILL !".The Attitude of "I am Born for Achievements !" may be gained with the following

Factors : (a) Clearcut Purpose (Goal) in Life.

(b) Commitment towards the Spcific target.

(c) Dare to win Attitude(Confidence on Self) and

(d) Detailed Plan of Action.

If you have the above fundamentals of Success,you can easily overcome the expected obstacles or challenges which comes on your way towards the Goal.

As per the Quote by Henry Ford "Whether You Think You Can or Can't, You're Right",

Our beliefs or our mental models matters a lot in our efforts to won the target. If you believe that something is impossible,then you can't create the commitment required for making it in to a reality.Therefore if you want to create history,like Lingoln,Gandhi,Tresa,Vivekananda,Wilma Rudalf,Charle Chaplin,etc., Please spare your attention towards finding a BURNING URGE in your mind for creating an I Can ! and I Will !"approach in your Belief System to make you Stroger and Stronger to be persistent enough to face the Challenges in the path of Great Achievements,Laurels,Success and Leadership.

A Valuable Quote of Swami Vivekananda

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.

Follow the above message throughout your Life

Gain utmost Self Confidence.

Consider all Obstacles as Power Generators.

Reach the TOP OF THE WORLD

Wish You all the very Best .

Your's

Dr.R.MOHAN KUMAR.,

Professor and Head.,

Department of Management Studies.,

Francis Xavier Engineering College.,

Tirunelveli.Tamilnadu.

ROLE OF PARENTS IN MAKING THEIR CHILDREN SUCCESSFUL

ROLE OF PARENTS IN MAKING THEIR

CHILDREN SUCCESSFUL

The happiest moment in the mind of any parent must the occasion of hearing the news about the GREAT ACHIEVEMENT of their Children.
Great Achievements need (a) Clearcut Purpose in Life
(b) Positve Mindset
(c) Risk Taking or Self Confidence or Courage
(d) Skills
(e)Knowledge , etc., in Children.
Among the above factors the prominent factor which is influencing the progress of children is RISK TAKING.
What is the base for the Risk Taking potential of Children? :
1.Parenting Style: Parenting Style is one of the important factor determining the Risk Taking capability of children.
(a) Authoritarian Style: Authoritarian parents always try to exert their control on the children.
(b) Permissive Style: Permissive parents give maximum freedom to their children.
(c) Democratic Style: Democratic parents help children learn to be responsible for themselves and to think about the consequences of their behavior.
The type of Parenting Style adopted by Parents plays a vital role in the behavioural moulding of children.From the above styles of parenting , Democratic style is more useful for inculcating the quality of RISK TAKING,which is vital for their successful living in the society.
2. Role Modeling: Role Modeling is one of the powerful tool valuable for forming the desired behaviour in children.Hence Parents can use this method as a technique to develop the quality of RISK TAKING in our children.
Role Modeling in parenting is acquiring of behaviour by children through the observation of the behaviour of their parents.The most we need to do is listen to ourselves and observe our own behaviors when we are raising children who look up to us.Hence atleast in front of your children, behave as you expect your children to behave.
Especially in building the qualities of SELF CONFIDENCE and RISK TAKING , Role modeling plays a crucial role.
There are two kinds of Role Modelings which may help children to learn the qualitiy of RISK TAKING:
One is the self confidence and risk taking tendency shown by parents(Role Modeling) in front of their children.So parents please behave with self confidence , boldenough to take risk in your day today affairs esspecially when yourchildren listens.Such behaviour automatically may help your children to develop the qualities of self confidence and risk taking.
The other one is the confidence or fear , we are imprinting in the mindset of our children through our repeated fearful punishments , scoldings or telling of fearful stories.These imprints may cause more FEAR and less Risk Taking potential in the mind of our children. As RISK TAKING is the foundation for the successful living of children,at any cost parents should avoid causing fear in the mindset of children.
Points useful to reduce Fear in children:
1.Respect your child's feelings and fears.
2.Find why he/she is afraid and then talk about it.
3.Don't be overprotective.
4.Don't overreact.a
5.Give your child support as he learns to master his fears.
6.Reassure her/ him to face her/his fears.
7.Show them that the incident is not a risky one.
Follow the above insights ,make your children more courageous,to make them as successful as possible.

Effective Parenting

Success of any human being is based on the kind of mindset possessed by him or her. The mindset of individual is based on the experiences gained by children in socialization throughout their childhood.Socialization of children is influenced by the parenting method of their parents, experiences given by their neighbors, religious leaders, relatives and other stakeholders in the society.Among the influences, the influence of parents is crucial in the behavioral molding process of children. Through your way of rearing you can either mold children with Negative Mental Attitude (NMA)or mold with Positive Mental Attitude(PMA).People with NMA are moving towards mediocrity and those with PMA are heading in the direction of Success, laurels,and achievements.Ergo, Parents should consider the following points in the method of parenting they are using to rear their children.
1. Love your Children unconditionally.
2.Teach them positive values through Role Modeling.
3.Use Positive Motivation Techniques to improve them.
4.Avoid Complaining children.
5.Avoid Hitting , Canning, Pinching, and all other kinds of inhuman punishments.
6.Avoid comparing your children with other children.
7.Don't destruct the soft natured mind of children with your continuous
ridicules, or complaints or comparisons or scolding ,etc.,
8.Give them maximum positive strokes, like appreciation , recognition, etc.,
9.Give them QUALITY TIME for ensuring a positive environment to mould a
better mental make up.
Friends as Swamy Vivekanda rightly said "IF YOU WANT TO GIVE SOME THING TO YOUR CHILDREN ; LET IT BE SELF CONFIDENCE"
Wish You all the Best for a Great Successful Parent.